Live, Like, Love, Learn, and Live to Love Again 1-23-12

Recently, I had the opportunity to encourage a friend who was nervous about meeting someone new.  He had been given the number of a young lady and he was hesitant to give her a call.  For my readers who are single and looking to find love or looking to be found, this can be a true roller coaster ride.  Do I call, do I not?  Do I put myself out there to be hurt?  What if they reject me?  What if they like me but, I'’m really not feeling them?  What if they don’'t like the way I look?  And the list of questions and doubts go on and on…….  If you are hesitant in starting a new relationship because you have made bad decisions in relationships in the past, get over it!  We all have made bad decisions at some point in the relationships we have encountered.  If you are hesitant because you were in a relationship with someone who made bad choices that left you scarred; most people have experienced that as well.  Every failed or broken relationship we have been in had some lessons for us to learn.  Reflect on the relationship, see what lesson was learned (or should have been learned), and move past either the hurt or the void you feel was left as a result.  If you feel like you have loved and lost, at some point we all have and now is the time to seek out or take hold to every opportunity to meet someone new or at least be open to it.  If you meet someone and they don't seem to be that into you, it’s okay.  It doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you.  I like fruit but I don’t like raspberries.  It doesn’'t mean that there is something wrong with raspberries, they just aren’'t my preference.  Usually we feel rejected or let down when there is a higher expectation than the situation really deserves.  Sometimes we go into the first conversation thinking “Oh, this could be the one!”  Just chill out and take it one moment at a time.  If they never call you again, oh well.  Keep it moving!  Remember, men are like buses, they'’ll be another one coming along shortly.  Just be patient!  Or you can just throw in the towel and take the long walk home.  I chose to wait on the bus, caus' the shoes I wear wouldn'’t make it past one block! LOL!!  My husband isn’t perfect and neither am I, but I believe we are perfect for each other.  Live, Like, Love, Learn, and Live to Love again (not necessarily in that order!)