Puff Puff, Give Give! 1-16-12

I have a really big pet peeve!  I believe that relationships should have a “puff puff, give give”; a sharing between those in the relationship.  It really annoys me when someone wants you to share all of your business with them and they are not willing to share anything about themselves!  My thoughts are, we both need to have something to lose.  When you know personal information about someone and they have personal information about you, I think there is more of a sense of accountability in not sharing each other's information with other people so we both have something to lose if sensitive information is shared with others.  Being a private person is fine.  I would like to consider myself to be a private person in some instances, and because of that I don't expect any of my friends to share any more information than I am willing to share.  My mom always taught me to be leery of people who always want you to share what's going on in your world while they share absolutely nothing about what's going on in theirs.  There are some relationships that I like to call “therapeutic relationships/friendships”.  This is where the relationship is more of one when one person looks to the other for guidance or a listening ear.  The relationship is kind of one-sided but the roles are clear between the two people involved.  Those that serve in the “therapist” role are not the one’s I'm talking about.  I am talking about the people who are usually just nosy and guarded all at the same time and oftentimes “can’t hold water”.  I have a few of these people in my life.  They have some great qualities but when it comes to me sharing my challenges that make me vulnerable, I don't!  Real relationships need balance. So know, if we don’t have an exchange of “sensitive” information, I ain’t tellin’ you JACK!